I have been thinking much about this topic.
We all have lies that are spoken over our lives that turn into labels and eventually we start to believe the lie about ourselves, so much so that it can make one feel so empty and down, that they start to behave like the lies they have been told.
They start to wear the label that was a result of a lie told and their actions begin to take on that label.
It could be anything, that doesn’t line up with the word of God because we are all worthy, we are all a gift to this life and we are all on journey just in different directions. No one was born bad, no child is bad they are products of their environments.
As we get older we are to learn responsibility if some of us did not get that need met as a child with proper guidance, then we just might take longer to get there. I believe most people have an in-depth feeling of “there has got to be something better then this “or “what is wrong with me” and so they search out help for themselves.
Unfortunately, some will never ever see that they have an issue and will continue to go about life blaming others for their mishaps.
I have learned in my own pain that not everyone is capable, wants to or even realizes there is a problem. It’s like they live in some sort of bubble or fairy tale. Searching but never finding.
There are people that have (what a good friend of mine, calls bacteria and their bacteria can become our, if we allow it.
Notice the IF word. We have control over what we allow, we actually teach people how to treat us.
For me I was so used to the familiar from childhood, that I would only hang out and date what I was used to. I had family members, intimate partners and even friends put labels on me that I started to believe that I was that very thing they spoke over me.
I was the one that felt “what is wrong with me” I went on a hunt to figure it out and what I realized was there was nothing wrong with me except I suffered from rejection became a people pleaser and believed I was unworthy of anything and only advanced as far as I felt.
Turns out I am much much more then that and the people that place these lies over us, have deep embedded issues. The famous saying!
Hurt people hurt people
It holds so much truth. Words do hurt us and we say to ourselves we will not let us penetrate our souls but it takes more then just saying that, it takes work and determination. Most importantly it takes knowing who you are and not settling for what others think you are.
I found my healing in the most unlikely of places, it was a relationship formed with our savior and loving father Jesus. He is a friend in deed. He is there when we think He is not, so many people blame Him for the bad in their lives but if they really knew the truth then the truth would most definitely set them free in deed.
I will leave scripture below.
We live in a tough tough world today, where people are angry and hurt and want to hurt others because misery does love company.
We need to learn the importance of remaining stable and calm in our trials and tribulations because there will always be hard times but each time is a training for the next and as my favorite saying by a philosopher is…
Success is the ability to move from failure to failure without the loss of enthusiasm
When I saw that saying, I absolutely grabbed onto it and loved it because success is not measured by what you do it’s who you are.
So, as hard as it may feel and tough as it may get, break off those lies that turn into labels and just be you!
There is only one you and many may not except you but if they don’t then that is how you know if they are a true friend, partner and even family member.
Move on the right people will come along.
We must be able to decern the difference between healthy and unhealthy by making ourselves healthy enough to realize it.
Thank you for reading
Gifted Guidance 💕💕