I have had a lot of thought surrounding this topic lately, see I am an observer of all things and one thing I have been observing as of late, are women that control their men with manipulation, domination and control.
These are the women that appear completely independent and with strength but inside or behind closed doors they tend to manipulate, dominate and control their men.
These are the women that want to be the man in the relationship, that spin the whole thing around, take the “balls” right from the men. I think to myself “why on earth, would a women want this?” or “why do the men, allow this?”
I don’t only see this in romantic relationships, I see this in friendships and business partnerships as well.
Highly manipulative people come off as highly intelligent, they have been able to con their way through life, wether by elaboration of who they are (story-telling) lying about others (‘The good ole, I am going to step on another to get ahead, tactic.”), telling a person what they want to hear, instead of just being genuine, some even use sex and or sex appeal.
I believe it to be that these women are really just needy, dramatic and chaotic a true “damsel in distress” and men can smell this a mile away. Men, plain and simple want to feel needed, it is their nature. So, they take the bait. Only to find out if at all that they just entered a web of destruction and some become entangled and stuck in that web because let’s face it, these women can be down right crude and rude..”
If ignorance is bliss, why seek truth? Because permanent freedom is far more valuable than temporary comfort. Truth frees you from the manipulation, miscalculation, and disillusionment that ignorance inevitably brings.
However, these women get whatever they desire then men jump at their beck and call. What happened to partnership, in any relationship? If a guy wants to feel needed, isn’t it best to know you are wanted and not needed. I would think to know you are wanted is to know you are needed but in a healthy way.
What do those women bring to any table but hidden faces of chaotic messes, that one might never see because they are busy playing the victim and allowing good independent people to be destroyed, these will be the women that never approach the ones they have the issue with but just talk behind their backs causing damage the other has no idea about. Who has time for “damage control.”
Instead of simply asking if this that or the other is the truth, these men get entangled in “gossip” themselves. All the while on the other end, these type of women are starting little “flames of rumors”, themselves, so when the good natured women finally blows up, the other can say “See I told you such and such was like that.” That is how they gain more manipulative power and control over situations these women are vey tricky and before you know it, your “balls” are completely in their hands.
An independent women has no need to manipulate, dominate or control.
Their strength speaks volumes because strength is quiet and it does not need to advertise one just is out of circumstances others would “fold” to.
I have no desire to be a man or wear the pants, no desire to control, manipulate or dominate my way ahead, I am a decision maker no doubt but I know when to make an executive decision and when to ask ” what do you think about this’?
Men like it to be their idea as well.
There are few rubies in this world and more and more they are getting confused and mistaken for the “damsels in distress” the out right dominating, manipulating and controlling women.
They know how to play it safe until they get whatever they want and independent women either have what they want already and aren’t looking for another to provide that to them, or they will be direct and ask what they want, if the situation is fitting.
If not they will wait for a more opportune time. They just know what is appropriate and what is not. I am not sure I believe in that saying, when it comes to relationships of any kind, to grab it while you have the chance, to me that is no less than stepping on another to get ahead and what class does that show.
There is an order to all things or else you just have dis-order and a lot of women with character and integrity have missed out on great opportunities but then I have to wonder were they just that opportunities that were meant to pass us by!
It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house with a contentious women.
“Everyone deceives his neighbor And does not speak the truth, They have taught their lying tongue to speak lies; They weary themselves committing iniquity.
1 Kings 21:25
But there was none like unto Ahab, which did sell himself to work wickedness in the sight of the LORD, whom Jezebel his wife stirred up
*Note* Jezebel was Ahab’s wife. Ahab, is an example of the above blog!!